Twenty years ago in the town of Cambridge, Massachusetts, redacted then boyfriend imprisoned him in his apartment for three-and-a-half hours and threatened to kill him with a knife and a gun.

After hours of talking, redacted managed to escape and find somewhere to hide. It was a terrifying ordeal, but at the time he didn't think a crime had been committed.

"I didn't identify it as domestic violence due to the images out there about domestic violence being an issue experienced by heterosexual women," he says.

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